He spends way too much time in there, but I don't know what else to do. I feel bad, I SCREAMED at him this morning. Do you ever really scream at your kids? If you don't, don't you dare leave me a comment. I have been an ornery mom lately and it takes everything in me to drag Kire into time-out instead of beat him. I have been stressed with getting everything ready for christmas, doing tons of watch & headband orders, and working that I know I have been short-tempered with Kire. It doesn't help either that his OCD is out of control and he's been just plain naughty. He is into potty talk, and is constantly in time-out for saying bad words. Then he purposely acts out to get attention: squeezing Jack, yelling, making messes.
I try to make everything easier on Kire because he is soo particular. I try to get him the right cup for the right drink, the right plate & fork for what we happen to be eating that day. I try to let him wear "softy pants" and let him pick out his own clothes. But if something is broken or out of place, or he just wants something he can't have, he throws a complete fit.
Now, this might be normal for a 4 year old, but I don't think so. Erik talked to his day care teacher about it and she thinks it's a little odd too, but he doesn't act out so much at school. She's going to have someone come observe him and see if there's anything we need to be doing.
So until then, I will pray for patience and try to be a better mom.
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Oh good I'm not the only mom. I swear days I can handle the big things and other days its the tiniest things that throw me off and make me yell. I feel like all my kids do lately is ask for this and that and whine. Seriously? If you had any idea what you were getting for Christmas you'd shut your mouth. I threaten to take it all back or call Santa, but so far its not working. I think its the holidays.
oh and praying for patience probably isn't the best idea. I learned it makes you have to use it that much harder. lol
I hear you! Don't worry, you're not a bad mom, I definitely have good days and bad with the yelling. One thing that works for us with the potty talk- I keep a spray bottle with vinegar that is watered down just a little and when they say things they know they shouldn't or they talk back they get a squirt of vinegar, works pretty good around here.
It is so hard at times. You know the 5 love language thing? Have you figured out Kire's? I know when Max is acting up Ryan and I really have to concentrate on spending one on one time with him and more importantly praise him with positive affirmations. After a day or two I always notice a difference.
And just to let you know, of course I yell- scream at him sometimes. The best advice that has been given me is: Sometimes your kids have to think your a little bit crazy!
Why yes I have really yelled at my kids. I've yelled so hard, in fact, that I peed my pants a little. Have you put holes in your walls while yelling, so you don't beat your kids? If you haven't then you're doing much better than me. If you don't believe me come on over and I'll show you. Just yesterday P said, "Our house is going to be destroyed because of YOU."
And, April, I agree with you. Don't pray for patience because then you'll get more trials to teach you patience until you've learned. ;)
Skye,
I don't know if you remember me from highschool, and I hope you don't mind that I leave you a comment.. or that I look at your blog sometimes. You are just so funny.. your blog cracks me up sometimes.
Kire sounds a lot like my son.. well the OCD and being naughty. I have a 3 1/2 year old who also has to have the "right" cup, food, etc. It has gotten so bad that he has a major tantrum if the clothing he is wearing doesn't have the number 3 or the letter S on it. If we are at the store we have to check out in isle number 3, and the volume on the TV has to be on 3 or 33! Super wierd!
Anyway.. I totally feel what you are going through. It can be rough sometimes. Hunter's behavior has improved lately because we have a designated time out spot. Before I would just put him in his room (and he would of play), but it got him out of my hair for a minute. That is so bad, I was lazy! I actually bought the book How to parent a strong willed child and it helped a ton! Now I just need a cure for the OCD! Crazy Kids!
Good Luck!
I know exactly how you feel, I think all kids get to be particular about certain things. Blaise seriously has breakdowns if his fingers get wrinkly in the tub or if things aren't exactly the way he wants them. I think the key is being consistent in discipline. Its a tough - thankless job but someone has to do it!
Oh Skye if you could be a fly on my wall you wouldn't feel so bad seriously.... especially after this morning... But kids are so forgiving and they will always love you so dont be to hard on your self, It is not easy being a Mom..... Hope to see you soon!
Dude! I know I don't have any kids, but I'm pretty sure most parents want to kill there children, so you're just fitting with everyone else. That's why I had to move out of my house. So that means that Kire's just getting it out of his system early. Just remember that you're a great mom and this is completely normal, every parent goes through this and if they say that there not, they're lying. I love ya, good luck. Oh and I'll Watch your kids anytime just let me know and you and Eric can have a night.
I find the UPS man much more forgiving than the FedEx guy. :)
As soon as I figure out how not to yell at my kids, I will write my best-selling secrets. Until then, the world will have to wait for my wisdom.
Jack is darling. Hang in there.
I love this post. I could just copy it and put it on my blog. I love the line, "I throw him in time-out instead of beat him" That is so me. I went and saw a psychologist about it just to get parenting ideas and have someone to talk to about it, and it really helped. Don't worry, our kids will forget (hopefully).
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